Are you Sensitive, Critical, or Supportive?

Many of us have encountered people who are either sensitive or insensitive, who are critical in a constructive manner or to a nasty fault, and those who have either had our backs in exercising unconditional support, or who have wanted to mentally and emotionally “check out” from us.

Where do you fall?  Where do your friends and loved ones fall?  Below are some quick examples and scenarios to help you tap into whether you’re mindful of being sensitive, critical, or supportive:

Sensitive – You may have gotten a promotion at work.  Or you got engaged or married.  Or you had your first baby.  Congratulations!  However, those around you might not be experiencing such good fortune in these areas, and could very well be struggling.  Maybe certain folks in your circle just lost their job, or went through a bad breakup, or are having difficulties getting pregnant.   Be sure to celebrate your good news, but also be sure to step outside of yourself to reflect upon what other people might be going through as well.  Check in with your loved ones about where they might stand.  They will likely appreciate it.

Critical  – Before you judge, jump to a conclusion, or let your personal opinion take over, STOP!   Talk to your friend or loved one about some differences or patterns you may be noticing in their behavior.  Exercise kindness.  You can ultimately even agree to disagree.  The important thing is to ask them how they’re feeling, and to see if there’s anything you can do to help.  An overly critical individual may be harboring deep insecurities, fear, jealousy, or anger.  In such cases, additional help may be necessary.

SupportiveFriends and loved ones exercise openness and kindness when it comes to the people they care about.  If you notice that certain people in your life put you down, or see matters only through their own lens of perspective, then you are likely not in a supportive situation.  Open up a conversation about where things stand, and express your take on matters.  Ultimately, if people choose to be unsupportive of, or uncaring about what’s going on in your life, it may be best to take a break and revisit the issues after a period of time, or to ultimately let them go.

Do you know anyone who is struggling with sensitivity, criticism, or support?  Do you wonder if those around you are helpful or hindrances?  Reach out to comment or register questions about your particular situation!



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